Assessment - Uninvited

1) When you make a mistake, how do you usually react?

Negative self-talk, such as calling yourself names or mentally beating yourself up.

You feel bad but it doesn’t ruin your whole day. Everyone makes mistakes.

2) When someone you know doesn’t invite you to their event or gathering, what is your first assumption?

There must be something wrong with you.

They must not really like you.

They simply forgot you and it’s no big deal.

3) When someone turns down an invitation from you, are you more likely to:

Brush it off

Rehash it and wonder about it for days

4) When plans you had your heart set on unexpectedly fall through, are you more likely to:

Go about your day knowing things happen and it’s no big deal

Find yourself slightly off for the rest of the day, unable to shake the disappointment

5) How often do you struggle with the fear of being abandoned by those you love?

Never

Sometimes

Often

Daily

6) How hesitant are you to enter into new relationships because of hurt or lack of trust you have experienced in past relationships?

Not hesitant at all

A little bit hesitant

Extremely hesitant

I avoid entering new relationships altogether because of previous experiences.

7) How often do you find yourself mentally revisiting and rehashing conversations or situations that left you feeling rejected?

Never

Sometimes

Often

Daily

8) When someone has hurt you or someone you love, what is usually your initial reaction?

a. You feel a desire to give grace.

b. You feel the need to explain yourself and usually get emotional in the process.

c. You feel the need to distance yourself from that person for a while.

d. Both b + c

9) How often do you feel overlooked or forgotten by God?

Never

Sometimes

Often

Daily

10) When you see someone else succeed in an area where you are longing for success are you more likely to:

Feel like you can genuinely celebrate that person

Feel like avoiding that person for a while

Struggle with feeling small, unnoticed, or incapable

Feel like competing and comparing yourself with that person

11) How do you typically feel after spending a lot of time on social media?

It doesn’t really affect my feelings.

I am a little dissatisfied with my own life.

I often feel sad and left out.

12) How likely are you to spend more money than you know you should in order to impress others?

Not likely at all

I might do this every once in a while.

I’m very likely to do this.

I do this all the time.

13) How likely are you to post something on social media or say something in in conversations to try to win people’s approval?

Not likely at all

I might do this every once in a while.

I’m very likely to do this.

I do this all the time.

14) Do you ever struggle with believing that God loves you personally?

Never

Sometimes

Often

Daily

15) How often do you feel suspicious that God has good plans for everyone but you?

Never

Sometimes

Often

Daily

16) How likely are you to say yes to things that you don’t want to because you are afraid someone will be upset if you say no?

Not likely at all

I might do this every once in a while.

I’m very likely to do this.

My life is dictated by others’ requests because I don’t want them to stop liking me.

17) When it seems as though someone doesn’t like you, do you:

Find yourself consumed with thoughts of how you can win them over

Feel slightly agitated but think defensively, “their loss!”

Choose to have a conversation about it with that person

Truthfully not let it bother you and move on

18) When you think of love, which of these best describes how you feel about it?

It feels like something reserved for other people but always slightly out of reach for me.

I feel like I’m in a healthy place of grasping God’s love for me and loving those around me.

I feel numb to talking about love or investing any sort of emotion into relationships.

I’m in the process of getting to a healthy place in accepting God’s love and loving those around me.

19) When you walk into a party, are you more likely to:

Look for people you can meet and talk to

Wait for people to talk to you

20) How likely are you to overfill your schedule to avoid being alone?

Not likely at all

I might do this every once in a while.

I’m very likely to do this.

I do this all the time.

21) How often do you find yourself worrying about what others think about you?

Never

Sometimes

Often

Daily

22) When you are overlooked for an opportunity, are you more likely to:

Struggle for a long time to shake the disappointment

Feel disappointed for a little while but know God will have other opportunities especially for you